Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them;
The title of this post might be the strangest one you ever see written by a guy who's not quite 32 years old. You hear plenty of people much later in life talk about things like this, but as strange as it might seem, it's something I've been thinking about lately. You see, in a very short period of time, my thinking about what is important and my priorities have changed drastically. If I could travel back in time, even just a couple of years, I'd like to set myself straight on a few things. I can't do that, of course, but perhaps there's someone out there who is like me who could benefit from reading them. I've decided to share them here in the hopes that they might accomplish that. This post is long, but please don't allow that to stop you from reading. These things are important.
#1: The things you think are so important really aren't.
If you read this blog much at all, you know I'm a hockey fan. Further, you probably know that I enjoy studying the sport's history. I enjoy watching hockey, the occasional college football game, and I must admit that I enjoy working the sidelines of local high school sporting events as a journalist. However, that's a long way from how I used to approach sports. I used to watch any and every sporting event that I could. In short, if I wasn't obsessed (and I probably was), I was very close. Furthermore, when it came to college football, I would sometimes even get angry when something didn't go my way.
I think back on that now and can't help but shake my head in disbelief. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a sports fan, though there is something very wrong with the way many people -- my former self included -- approach it. Much of the time I wasted on things like that -- and it was wasted time -- would have been better used applied to things of more eternal importance. My attitude was certainly wrong, and I'm not alone in that. Your problem might not be with sports. It could be any number of things. Trust me, though, one day, you'll learn that it's not as important as you think it is, and you'll regret much of it. You'll learn that God is far more important.
#2: The problems you're dealing with aren't really such a big deal.
But I don't know what you're dealing with, right? That may be true, but it doesn't really matter -- I don't have to know. I'll explain why in just a moment. You see, if I were to try to pin down my worst personality trait, it would be my tendency to worry. It's something that I've had to fight throughout my entire life. I've said before that I can think of anything that can possibly go wrong in any situation. If that's not bad enough, once I had thought of them, I'd dwell on them. That led to many dreary days, and restless nights. A life built around worry isn't the greatest life. What's more, it's a life of sin.
I can't say that I never worry now, though I'm quite glad to say that I do it far, far less than I used to. The best thing about it is that it makes life much more joyful. I learned something through experience that helped turn it around. The fact is, God truly does know everything that can possibly go wrong, but more importantly, He knows what's going to happen. Beyond that, everything that happens is within His hand. He doesn't simply know the future, He controls it. If you struggle with worry, you'll be far better off if you'll learn to fall back into the arms of God and trust in Him when difficulties arise. Your problems are tiny when compared to the size of your God.
#3 Be careful when you choose your battles, and be careful how you fight them.
It's one thing to be well-intentioned, but it's another thing to be wise. It's another thing still to do things in the right spirit. It's important to stand up for what's right, but it's also important to be discerning in when and how we do it. It is possible to be too nitpicky and aggressive, and so far from accomplishing something worthwhile, possibly do damage. We can also find ourselves at fault by looking for fights.
Grace is important when we deal with others. No one is perfect. It's usually much easier to see the faults of others than to see our own. It can be highly discouraging when someone points out every minor flaw in our lives, so why should we expect that it would be any different for others? We can't expect anyone to be perfect, and we can very easily hurt them by doing so. Before we enter into any confrontation, we should first determine whether doing so is necessary. Are we doing so just because we want the battle? Is fighting the battle something that will do good? If so, are we fighting it in a right spirit because we want to see righteousness win or simply because we want to be right?
#4 You're going to deal with things you never thought you would, but they're for your good.
My life now is far different that it was just two years ago. My life then was far different that it was five years ago, and my life then was far different that it was 10 years ago. Most of those changes took place because of things I would have insisted never would have happened in my life. It would be inappropriate to go into the details here, but suffice it to say that they are things that couldn't be classified as good. In fact, if not for the fact that I have learned to trust more in God through what has happened, they could have been absolutely devastating.
The future is a complete mystery to us. It's easy to assume that certain things couldn't happen to us, but that's not the way life works. None of us is immune to any kind of tragedy or disaster. When those things strike, we often can't understand how or why. However, if we'll allow God to use them in our lives, we'll be amazed at what He does. Speaking for myself, while I have to admit that there are aspects of the things that happened that I do wish had never taken place, I can honestly say that I wouldn't change the effects that they have had on me personally. God has used them to make me a better person and draw me closer to Him.
#5 It's all about God.
This is the most important one, and I guess it's fair to say that everything above falls under this one umbrella. What place does God hold in your life? Most give Him little more than lip service. I want to give a caveat to what I say though. I truly think that many of those that give God nothing more than lip service mean well, but simply don't understand what it means to truly give God first place. They want to serve God, but they really don't know how.
I'd say I once fell into that category, and it's something that I'm still growing out of. In fact, if I don't continue to grow out of it for the rest of my life, something's wrong. To be able to serve God properly, we must know God. The more we know Him, the better able to serve Him we'll be. To get to know Him better, we have to spend more time with Him. We have to spend time in the Bible and in prayer. We have to meditate on God and the things of God. If we do that, we'll understand better what it means to say that it's all about Him, and we'll have a greater desire to make it all about Him.
I apologize for the length of this post, but I pray that it will be a blessing to someone. I don't know if my younger self would listen to my current self, but I'm convinced that it would have done him a lot of good.
Ecclesiastes 12:1
The title of this post might be the strangest one you ever see written by a guy who's not quite 32 years old. You hear plenty of people much later in life talk about things like this, but as strange as it might seem, it's something I've been thinking about lately. You see, in a very short period of time, my thinking about what is important and my priorities have changed drastically. If I could travel back in time, even just a couple of years, I'd like to set myself straight on a few things. I can't do that, of course, but perhaps there's someone out there who is like me who could benefit from reading them. I've decided to share them here in the hopes that they might accomplish that. This post is long, but please don't allow that to stop you from reading. These things are important.
#1: The things you think are so important really aren't.
If you read this blog much at all, you know I'm a hockey fan. Further, you probably know that I enjoy studying the sport's history. I enjoy watching hockey, the occasional college football game, and I must admit that I enjoy working the sidelines of local high school sporting events as a journalist. However, that's a long way from how I used to approach sports. I used to watch any and every sporting event that I could. In short, if I wasn't obsessed (and I probably was), I was very close. Furthermore, when it came to college football, I would sometimes even get angry when something didn't go my way.
I think back on that now and can't help but shake my head in disbelief. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a sports fan, though there is something very wrong with the way many people -- my former self included -- approach it. Much of the time I wasted on things like that -- and it was wasted time -- would have been better used applied to things of more eternal importance. My attitude was certainly wrong, and I'm not alone in that. Your problem might not be with sports. It could be any number of things. Trust me, though, one day, you'll learn that it's not as important as you think it is, and you'll regret much of it. You'll learn that God is far more important.
#2: The problems you're dealing with aren't really such a big deal.
But I don't know what you're dealing with, right? That may be true, but it doesn't really matter -- I don't have to know. I'll explain why in just a moment. You see, if I were to try to pin down my worst personality trait, it would be my tendency to worry. It's something that I've had to fight throughout my entire life. I've said before that I can think of anything that can possibly go wrong in any situation. If that's not bad enough, once I had thought of them, I'd dwell on them. That led to many dreary days, and restless nights. A life built around worry isn't the greatest life. What's more, it's a life of sin.
I can't say that I never worry now, though I'm quite glad to say that I do it far, far less than I used to. The best thing about it is that it makes life much more joyful. I learned something through experience that helped turn it around. The fact is, God truly does know everything that can possibly go wrong, but more importantly, He knows what's going to happen. Beyond that, everything that happens is within His hand. He doesn't simply know the future, He controls it. If you struggle with worry, you'll be far better off if you'll learn to fall back into the arms of God and trust in Him when difficulties arise. Your problems are tiny when compared to the size of your God.
#3 Be careful when you choose your battles, and be careful how you fight them.
It's one thing to be well-intentioned, but it's another thing to be wise. It's another thing still to do things in the right spirit. It's important to stand up for what's right, but it's also important to be discerning in when and how we do it. It is possible to be too nitpicky and aggressive, and so far from accomplishing something worthwhile, possibly do damage. We can also find ourselves at fault by looking for fights.
Grace is important when we deal with others. No one is perfect. It's usually much easier to see the faults of others than to see our own. It can be highly discouraging when someone points out every minor flaw in our lives, so why should we expect that it would be any different for others? We can't expect anyone to be perfect, and we can very easily hurt them by doing so. Before we enter into any confrontation, we should first determine whether doing so is necessary. Are we doing so just because we want the battle? Is fighting the battle something that will do good? If so, are we fighting it in a right spirit because we want to see righteousness win or simply because we want to be right?
#4 You're going to deal with things you never thought you would, but they're for your good.
My life now is far different that it was just two years ago. My life then was far different that it was five years ago, and my life then was far different that it was 10 years ago. Most of those changes took place because of things I would have insisted never would have happened in my life. It would be inappropriate to go into the details here, but suffice it to say that they are things that couldn't be classified as good. In fact, if not for the fact that I have learned to trust more in God through what has happened, they could have been absolutely devastating.
The future is a complete mystery to us. It's easy to assume that certain things couldn't happen to us, but that's not the way life works. None of us is immune to any kind of tragedy or disaster. When those things strike, we often can't understand how or why. However, if we'll allow God to use them in our lives, we'll be amazed at what He does. Speaking for myself, while I have to admit that there are aspects of the things that happened that I do wish had never taken place, I can honestly say that I wouldn't change the effects that they have had on me personally. God has used them to make me a better person and draw me closer to Him.
#5 It's all about God.
This is the most important one, and I guess it's fair to say that everything above falls under this one umbrella. What place does God hold in your life? Most give Him little more than lip service. I want to give a caveat to what I say though. I truly think that many of those that give God nothing more than lip service mean well, but simply don't understand what it means to truly give God first place. They want to serve God, but they really don't know how.
I'd say I once fell into that category, and it's something that I'm still growing out of. In fact, if I don't continue to grow out of it for the rest of my life, something's wrong. To be able to serve God properly, we must know God. The more we know Him, the better able to serve Him we'll be. To get to know Him better, we have to spend more time with Him. We have to spend time in the Bible and in prayer. We have to meditate on God and the things of God. If we do that, we'll understand better what it means to say that it's all about Him, and we'll have a greater desire to make it all about Him.
I apologize for the length of this post, but I pray that it will be a blessing to someone. I don't know if my younger self would listen to my current self, but I'm convinced that it would have done him a lot of good.